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Relationships are of various kinds. One kind you’re born into. The other is the bonds you form during your lifetime. Here are the broad categories of relationships.

Types of relationships
1. Blood – Family
2. Formed during the course of your life – Friends, Couples and so forth.

Any relationship can develop strains and problems if not maintained well. Lack of proper communication is common, and periods of either quiet or flared tempers are seen. In this situation it is highly recommended that the help of a counsellor is sought to bridge the gaps that get created.

What is Counselling

Counselling is nothing but providing a platform for you to talk about your issues. The counsellor suggests improvements to your lifestyle that brings about a direct impact onto your life.

Relationship counselling encourages groups to collectively or individually come out with all the conflicts, issues that pass a negative energy onto a relationship. The counsellor recommends suggestions for the aggrieved and assesses their response to the therapy periodically.

Why do people need relationship counselling?

When you are more and more emotionally involved in a relationship, you fail to see the finer details of what goes wrong in your relationship everyday. In this circumstance, you need a trained counsellor to intervene and help you.

How relationship counselling helps?

All the sides can express their issues openly, without inhibitions. The counsellor exudes signs of calmness and patience which act as positive stimulus to the group seeking counselling. When a couple starts to have trouble in a relationship, neither party is willing to give the other a fair hearing. The gap between the couple widens and the relationship then gets troubled. Counselling session helps the couple talk openly about the problem. The stories of each party are heard at length and

Why a trained counsellor is a must?

1. The counsellor is skilled and trained from his/her counselling experience
2. The counsellor can see things objectively, unbiasedly
3. The counsellor acts as the mediator and course corrector. The individual people can look up at the counsellor for advices or come clean with their issues

The common kinds of relations that can be strained and which seek counselling include

1. Couples (Married couples, boyfriends/girlfriends)
2. Parent-child
3. Friends
4. Work group people

Couple counselling
It is fairly common for couples to come for counselling. Lack of healthy communication leads to a troubled relationship and it is then that a counsellor must intervene to help sort out the differences.
The issues can be:
1. Lack of communication
2. Physical or sexual ailments between couples
3. Insecurities
4. Feeling of detachment, being left out
4. Other common feelings such as Jealousy, anger, hatred

Parent-child counselling is also another form of counselling that is common. A Sense of conflict arises between a parent and a child due to any of the following issues.

1. Lack of communication
2. Feeling alone
3. Unable to express emotions of love, hatred
4. Distance, both emotional and physical

A counsellor may use multiple modules of treatment to provide relief to the couple. This will solely be dependent on the diagnosis of the ailments that plague the relationship and will ultimately be at the discretion of the counsellor.

1. General counselling (individual or/and group)
2. Hypnotherapy
3. Past-life regression

Peer-group/Workspace counselling

Peers at workplace sometimes need to work together from long stretches of time, throughout the course of an assignment or as part of a team. It is hence advisable that the relationship stays smooth. Should there arise any conflict between peers at a workplace, it is recommended that they sort out the issues. If unable to resolve the problems among one another, it is strongly recommended that the group seeks the help of a trained counsellor.

Friends’ counselling
Friends are an important part of our lives and differences seep into these relationships too. It is fairly common to see differences emerge between friends in the spaces of

1. Career differences
2. Wealth differences
3. Lack of personal growth
4. Distance

In these scenarios, friends may choose to seek help of counsellors to work at the differences and drive at solutions and fix the relationship.

What is the goal of counselling?

Counselling is important for multiple reasons

1. Solution focussed – the most important goal of counselling sessions is to drive at solutions – a course of action that can be followed to achieve meaningful outcomes.

2. Opening up without inhibitions – When people open up about their stories, they feel lighter and they feel that they’ve been heard finally. A trained counsellor is skilled at the art of making you feel comfortable and letting go of your thoughts and grievances. Opening up to a skilled therapist is a great idea as he can recommend you a corrective course of action that would benefit you.

3. Save your relationship – When situations go out of hand and parties are most unwilling to communicate, a trained counsellor steps in and helps you save your relationship. A troubled or broken relationship can drain you physically and mentally. Counsellors make you look at sides that you ignore and are unable to see, often resulting in you giving the relationship another chance.

4. Action driven – Counselling is not just talk. The counsellor dishes out assignments and tasks to be carried out by the group so that you are consistently working towards the relationship, yourself. Counselling is not outsourcing the work to a third party, on the other hand a counsellor guides you on how you can work at the differences by yourselves.