Sometimes we rush into a relationship with both feet, only to be disappointed and devastated. Anyone we tie our boat to, whether it’s a close friend, a family member, or a lover, might end up hurting us.
While it may not be easy, there is hope on the other side of grief, and a toolkit of healthy coping mechanisms can help you get there safely.
What it’s like to be in the midst of a heartbreak? It can feel terrible. Like it could be the end of the world.
When we hear the word “heartache,” we usually think of romantic relationships. Heartache does not have to be romantic, as anyone who has lost a family member understands. Many of the same emotions—and even bodily pains—as breakups can be triggered by any loss. So here are some techniques to help you deal with your pain.
- Get a balanced routine on right away
Even if it may seem tough, try to get your routine right. Eat all your meals, sleep timely, exercise. However hard it might seem at first. Keep at this.
- Be kind to yourself.
In a similar vein, it’s critical to be kind to yourself as you go through this difficult time. It all boils down to having love and care for yourself. Don’t blame yourself for anything.
- Rely on your friends and family for help.
While you may have lost one relationship, you still have friends and family in your corner who want to help and support you—allow them to do so! It is easy to feel that they would not understand but surprisingly strong roots is a foundation of a quick recovery. This is one reason why you should always foster good relations with your family. They can be there for you, just the way you should be there for them incase they need you. Don’t push them away.
- Exercise
It might be tempting to stay locked up in your room, on your bed but sometimes your negative thoughts get the better of you. While you try to think good thoughts, a good physical regime helps you pump in fresh air into your body. You need that. That will help you both physically and mentally.
5. Encourage healthy thoughts and actions.
The mind can be your biggest threat if it is full of negativity. Flush them out, Think nice thoughts. however hard it might seem. When you’re going through an emotionally trying moment, it might be difficult to remember to take care of the basics, but this is when those good thoughts truly pay off. Good thoughts almost always lead to good actions.
- Refrain from acting rashly.
Deep losses might lead us to make rash and even dangerous decisions more frequently, especially when it comes to contacting an ex after a separation. We might become dopamine seeking individuals, take up things like alcohol or drugs to help us alleviate our pain. Don’t do this. Try to stick to your healthy routine, talk to your family and friends and steer clear of making any rash decisions or choices.
- Make a list.
If you feel overwhelmed by what all you can do and find yourself gravitating towards negative actions, don’t. Make a list of good things to do . Like tidying up your room. or making a meal for your family. Make a complete list. And keep at it. It is normal to lose direction and whenever this happens to you, refer your list and stay on course.
- Refrain from resuming your dating life.
rebounding is a common habit that the young generation has. While it is okay to talk to more people, getting intimate with a new partner might not be the best idea. This is another dopamine seeking habit that might lead to other rash decisions as was mentioned earlier. Get to a normal mind state before you start dating again.
- Seek the advice of a mental health professional.
Last but not least, if you’re really having trouble, consider going to therapy. Without the assistance and support of a professional, these issues can become overwhelming. A mental health professional has experience enough to guide you and help you, so be open to seeking help from a coach who can put your life back on track.
Heartache is definitely difficult to bear, whether you’ve lost a loved one or are going through a painful split. But keep in mind that nothing lasts forever. While it will take some time (and patience) to get to the other side, you will have gained insight into yourself, matured as a person, and strengthened your own resilience.